Confidence is everything. It is the thing that will advance you in your job, in your relationships with co-workers, and in your dating life. This is a relatively unexplored area of dating, but it is one that everyone intuitively feels. You may be dressed to the nines, polite, attentive, sweet, and charming. You may even be fortunate enough to be naturally good looking. But without confidence you will not get a second date.
First dates are all about first impressions. You may be loosely acquainted with the person you’re going out with. However, they will only start paying attention to you on the first date. That is when they will begin to assess you as a potential partner.
The fact is people will only partner with those they believe they can count on. You must play up your strengths and downplay your weaknesses. Confidence need not mean arrogance, boastfulness, and braggadocio. You don’t need to make the date all about you and how wonderful you are to be confident. Your aim should be to give a good account of yourself.
Think about what makes you special and distinct. Focus on your interests and the things you do well and enjoy. These are the things you want to discuss and demonstrate your passion about. If you are in a profession or line of work that you love, you need not talk shop the entire time. However, you can talk about what motivated you to pursue that career and mention some of the successes you’ve had.
You should also have something good to say about yourself as a person. You are a good person. You are someone who can give a great deal of kindness, love, and affection. Your conversation should reflect that; it should convey the feeling that you are worth spending time with and loving.