A breakup can leave you feeling shattered, demoralized, jaded, and hopeless. We’ve all been there. Everyone has experienced at least one heartbreaking end to a relationship. The pain seems unbearable. You may think that you will never love again; and indeed may shut yourself off from the possibility.
But this is neither a good nor a healthy way to go through life. While dating and falling in life is always filled with risk you should do it anyway. Why? Because falling in love is the most wondrous and rewarding thing that any of us can experience. The pain of the breakup will eventually subside. When it does, you must recall what it felt like at the beginning. You must remember the feeling of being in an almost permanent state of ecstasy. The exhilaration of hearing the voice of your beloved, the mad anticipation of seeing them again, the thrill of actually seeing them, and the almost volcanic emotion you felt whenever you were intimate.
These are the things that make falling in love worthwhile. Denying the natural yearnings of your heart will not prevent suffering. It can only lead to loneliness and pain of another sort. You will become increasingly bitter; not because anyone has hurt you, but because of your failure to find someone to love you and for you to love.
That is why you should always keep the prospect of dating and falling in love again constantly open. No one wants to endure the suffering that comes with a bad breakup. However, even such a terribly traumatic event can do some good. It can help to strengthen your character. It can make you more sympathetic to the plight of others. It can make you a more compassionate person in general. It may even teach you how to appreciate love and its value even more than you already do.