Dating advice

One of the biggest challenges to overcome when finally finding the courage to try international online dating is creating your dating profile. Most people make the mistake of writing generic descriptions about themselves and their interest and uploading a bad photo with the profile. These top two mistakes will guarantee limited matches.

Instead of creating an international dating profile without any thought, here are some useful tips that will help you post an attractive profile:

Use your profile as a conversation starter. Sharing just enough details about yourself and your interests is a great way for possible matches to find a common ground to talk about. Adding details like your favorite book and your go-to meal will give an insight to your personality while also giving fuel to the conversation.

Ask yourself questions that you would like to know about a potential date and add these to your profile. This is a great way to add more details to your profile while also having control of the possible conversation you will share with a date. Simple questions like "What is your road trip playlist?" And "How do you stay active?" Reveal a lot about yourself and may spark a conversation and connection if a match has the same interests.

Try to hold yourself from bragging about your accomplishments on your profile. As much as you want to impress people, sometimes overdoing it is a big turn off. You can always share these details on future dates if you are really proud of what you have accomplished.

Just try to have some fun and meet new people along the way. Sometimes the best friendships and relationships are started from a simple "Hey! I love that band too!".

There is nothing wrong with feeling a little pressure on your first date. You feel it is a big deal because it is a big deal. First dates are all about first impression. Hence, it is important to make your date see the person you really are. There is even more pressure if you really like the person you are meeting. However, there are ways to make the pressure more manageable.

You will of course want to look your best. You want to dress well and leave a pleasant impression of yourself in the other person’s mind. This is all good. However, it is not enough. Your primary focus should be on thinking of all the great things that you are on the inside. You need to re-affirm your self-worth. You should show up to the date with a certain amount of confidence and surety.

Indeed, there will be a good deal of pressure to keep the conversation going. You will want to avoid awkward silences and long, tense pauses. The best way to do that is to have something positive to say about yourself. You must be prepared to give an account of who you are and the things you are passionate about. This will help smooth the flow of conversation.

You need not pre-program everything you will say. That will come off as robotic, inauthentic, and just plain weird. Besides, the effort to remember everything will only increase your anxiety and nervousness. You can also speak on the thoughts and feelings you have at the moment. Whatever happens to occur to you when you are with your date can make for great conversation.

One of the biggest factors that leads to online dating success is the profile pictures. Uploading bad photos may result in other members feeling reluctant to connect with you, even if your written profile is a perfect match to theirs. Potential matches want to have a better look at who you are and your life and this is done best through pictures.

Since your profile pictures say a lot about you as a person and not just how you look, you have to choose the best pictures to upload. Here’s how you can make a standout online dating profile with the help photos:

Post more than one photo. Let the pictures tell a story so that potential matches will get to know who you are through the photos. Having 4 vertical photos will increase communication and connection drastically. Try to have photos that show your interests and favorite activities to give the one who views them a better idea of who you are. Most of all, always upload recent pictures where you are smiling.

Forget about posting a group image because online dating members don’t want to take extra time to spot you from the group. Another big mistake is posting pictures with sunglasses on, people prefer to see your eyes because hiding under sunglasses looks as if you are hiding something sinister.

Bathroom selfies should also be kept away from your profile because the lighting is terrible and no one wants to see a bathroom as your background. Party pics, provocative images, or pictures where other people are blurred out should never be included in your profile as well.

Remember, these photos are the first impression of who you are as a person, always have your best foot forward or you’ll find yourself without a match, or worse get messages from people you don’t want to meet at all!